I remembered seeing this on a blog awhile back & thought it might work for her shower. At this person's baby shower all the people painted the letters of the alphabet to put up in the baby room for decoration.
Idea adapted to a classroom: "every time a student catches someone doing something kind, they put the kind person's name on a piece of paper ALONG WITH the act of kindness. Then they SIGN the paper with their name and put it the jar. Once a week, the teacher draws a name from the jar and both kids get a treat"
Relay for Life fundraiser - people bought a ribbon for me to wear on the back of my t-shirt. The appropriate color ribbon had the person's name on it who we are honoring or remembering. I got many compliments from this!
Paper plate game. (Good for the last day of a group retreat.) Sit in a circle. Each person is given a paper plate markers. Write your name on plate and then pass left. Each person writes a note (or one positive adjective) on that person's paper plate that describes the owner of the plate. Pass the plate to the left again continue until everyone receives their own plate back filled with encouraging messages.
It's *only* permanent psychological damage... The "sticks and stones" phrase was unfortunately still popular when I was a kid, but I seriously hope it's becoming obsolete now. Words can absolutely hurt people - in fact, they're the everyday person's weapon-of-choice.